What you tend to do is neglect the people you think can take care of themselves, the ones who wobble but don’t fall down (much), the ones who have it good in one way or another and can get along fine without you, and maybe you even resent them. But nobody has it good enough to not need you, really. Then you let yourself be depleted, you pour yourself into the bottomless pit of the ones who neeeeeeeeeed you, who greedily suck the life out of you with their flapping and whining and squeaky wheeling and dealing. Quick! Stop the bleeding!